Saturday, June 30, 2007

Mourning: Mardi Gras style

When I die I have one wish; and only one. That wish is that whoever should survive me has an easy time both mentally and monetarily. As far as my funeral is concerned it doesn't matter to me if my body is buried, cremated, or put in a field to rot. Seriously, when I'm dead it's not going to matter to me what's done with the body that used to be me. I want to leave that decision to the one(s) I leave behind. If whoever is left feels the need to have a big funeral with a band and naked ladies on stilts carrying geese whose feathers have been dyed bright blue and orange so be it. If they feel the need to have a private somber service with just the closest of friends and family in attendance but want fireworks at the end, so be it. If they want to have my shrouded body brought to the top of a mountain, doused with gasoline and lit on fire, so be it. If they want to wrap my body in a sheet and dump me off of the back of a cruise ship and continue on with their their vacation, so be it. The point I'm trying to make is that the people left behind are going to have to cope, not me. My coping days will be over. I want them to have the ability to decide how they want to handle my funeral. You've heard me say that I believed in pre-planning, and I do, this is my pre-plan. I have made sure that there will be funds enough for them to do it their way, so in effect I've paid for it all.

LOL...of all the things I mentioned my wife has promised me that she wouldn't take me to the mountain top and torch me...this is good to know! But I really mean it. They're the ones who are going to have to keep on living and dealing with the death. So when the time comes, all they have to know is that however they choose to handle my remains, I would have agreed with them. And that it's ok to do it their way; because that's my one wish.


MedStudentWife said...

I totally agree - good blog!!

I'm in the same frame of mind... I'll be nothing better than peony fertilizer...but have a great Val Halla (sp) party on my part... :)

Have you seen "Dead Man" wit Johnny Depp ?? A great indie and a bit quirkie

Paper Fan Club said...

My husband wants to have his ashes spread over the golf course. Think he's considered that his wife could be arrested for that? Sheesh.

DeathSweep said...

Right MSW? It's not gonna matter to us so why not let them enjoy it!

paper fan club - you wont get arrested if it's not publicized and you just "Do It" with no-ones knowledge - But I didn't say that!

Thank you both!!


ICE_Molly said...

I must say, I like your idea here! When my mother died, more than 7 years ago now, I did so much of the arrangements. Beforehand, she sat me down and talked me through everything she wanted for the service, including the eulogy, which I was to do! At 22, it was difficult for me to handle, but it was what she wanted. Since that time, all these years later, I think on my own death and how I would want it to be handled, and after having read your post, realise, I agree, that I will want those being left behind, to decide.
Also, I just wanted to say thanks for regularly visiting Hayle Photo's - its always nice to know!

Anonymous said...

You know, I think we have a lot in common. I don't know if you should be worried. haha.