Saturday, June 16, 2007

No! Let me drive!



It's funny how life just happens around you no matter what your plans are. After first being exposed to the funeral industry I thought that the two of us were going to lead a charmed existence. At that time, I now realize, I didn't have a clue of how this business really worked and how it was going to affect our entire lives. We had so many plans that just never happened because I was too busy working. The funniest part is that I thought I was working toward those plans but there was always some reason why I couldn't do something or another. My wife was basically forced to become a "funeral directors wife" because the same as me, she had no clue; I know that this career of mine has been hard on her. We both work and it's a rare occasion when our days off coincide. She has and still does spend a lot of time on her own simply because I'm not there to share many things with her. There are many events that she goes to alone or forgoes going to because I'm working, when out, we're always in two cars in case I have to leave and get to work, there have been birthday parties planned by us that she has had to handle on her own because I was working, vacations without me because I've been working, doctor visits alone because I'm working and so many other simple every day things. It may not seem like a big deal and if I re-read what I've written it sounds mundane but when this is a constant thing, day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year it doesn't take too long to become tiresome to say the least. Yet, we still have our plans, we still have our goals, we still hope they happen but if not we'll just get around those turns when we get to them and try to set a new course. Setting the course is easy, it's the steering I have a problem with.

3 comments:

MedStudentWife said...

I must say, it sounds that you have a very wonderful and beautiful person in your life,DS.

I have a feeling that a similiar fate may await me at the end of Fidel's studies. I only hope that I can be half as good about it as she seems to be.

Looking back and with what you know of life, now, have you ever thought of what you might do if you weren't a funeral director ?

DeathSweep said...

Yes you're right she is a wonderful & beautiful person and I'm thankful for her every day. I'll tell you, I was thinking of you when I was writing this and to coin your phrase - methinks you're right about your future after Fidel is done with his studies. Something tells me you'll handle it just fine though. As far as a different career? I've been trying to figure that one out for too many years. DS

MedStudentWife said...

You certainly have an extremely creative side.. :)

(wish I had spell check built in my fingers)

Ok, here's a kicker. If you had all the money in the world and could run away with the missus (and whoever is left at home ~ or not) & re-invent yourself, because you didn't have to worry about putting food on the table...

What would you do ?

Dream a bit :)

I'm evil, not really...