This is something I thought of doing and honestly hope that everyone at least takes a look at the links below. They're not necessarily there for you personally but you might be able to get an insight into what your neighbor is feeling and why. I'm no expert on this stuff but I know I've been hearing much of the same information for as long as I can remember. Lots has changed since I started doing this but I'm sure the associated pain is and will always be the same.
I wish I could say enjoy but I can't so I'll just say good reading.