Friday, September 14, 2007

Don't ask me why...

Sometimes I feel as though I'm writing the same story over and over and over, but I can't help it....it keeps happening over and over and over and I swear as long as I walk this earth I'll never understand why it is that we can so easily just....kill ourselves; this is so frustrating.

Once again, a child has just thrown logic out the window, simple logic, common sense logic that we're reminded of constantly. A rule if you will, put in place for our safety to prevent this very thing from happening. I know, I know, we all break rules, young and old alike but the rules that are generally broken some how seem to benefit the breaker even if it's only in their own mind. This maybe 4 to 5 second procedure would have prevented me from writing this post today. It would have prevented the horror and grief that her parents and friends now have to face. Ultimately, it would have prevented her death. What did saving this instant in time help? It's really more common sense than a rule.

Does it make sense to ANYONE to walk out in front of speeding vehicles? Does it make sense to ANYONE to walk to the edge of a roof and try to hop around the perimeter of a building? Does it make sense to ANYONE to dive into a 50 foot deep pool of water knowing full well you can't swim? Of course not, none of this makes sense to the thinking individual, besides, these things are almost prepostorous, unheard of. But why then, should it make sense to ANYONE to speed down a pitch black, curvy road, no matter how well you know it, not wearing a seat belt? It doesn't make a bit of sense either but these brilliant children of ours obviously don't see this.

She was 16, just left her boyfriends house to go home, she was speeding, no seat belt, lost control on a curve and wound up in a field about 100 yards from the truck that she was driving. The truck had flipped, throwing her out to her death, and the police say she's dead because she had no belt on. When she hadn't come home as expected her father called her boyfriends house looking for her and was told she had left for the 5 minute trip home over an hour before. He called her cell phone; no answer. He went looking for her, only to discover her empty truck in the field where it had rolled to a stop. He thought she had walked away unhurt. On his way back to his car he called her again on her cell but this time he heard it ringing! He followed the ringing and before he got to it, he found her; crumpled, broken, bloody...dead. Her family is shattered. The community is hurting.

Please make no mistake, I am in no way bashing this poor child. I know that things like this can and do happen in an instant, the blink of an eye, and I know she had absolutely no intent on this being the outcome of her 5 minute drive home. I know if she now had a chance she would reverse all of this for her sake as well as for the sake of all that love her. However, what I find incomprehensible is why we continue to let this happen to ourselves. We need to at least think about the possible outcome of every decision we make before we act on it, big or small, no matter how minor it may seem. Minor can and often does lead to major, and major hurts like hell, especially to those left with that one word question, "Why?" Why indeed.

5 comments:

paisley said...

senseless indeed,, but it always makes me wonder,, as one who seems to just walk away from things that would have killed someone else... why is it that some go.. and some stay...i felt for a time that there was a reason none of the things that should have,,, ever killed me... now i just don't know.....

MedStudentWife said...

Are there any groups you can tap into to talk about these things ?

Here in Paradise, we have speakers that have had loved ones go through such personal tragedies.. speak to the young crowd to make them more aware of the issues.

I think you would be good at it.

Agnes Mildew said...

Oh heavens above - how terrible. Aren't there laws in the US making it compulsory to buckle up? We have them in the UK and there is quite a hefty fine if you don't. When it was first introduced, many flouted it, but now it is second nature and most newer cars are fitted with a highly irritating alarm which nags you to fasten your belt.

It is such a simple thing to do and is second nature to me - I feel 'naked' without my belt in the car. Thankfully, accidents such as that you have related are few and far between here.

deathsweep said...

Yes Agnes, there certainly are laws in the US governing the use of seatbelts as well as those annoying alarms you mention however many people unfortunately attempt to beat the law or just bypass it. This is what is so frustrating. When you look at it, there are laws which if followed would probably prevent the vast majority of all vehicular accidents yet wrecks are common in my area of the states and the saddest part is that they most often involve the young.

Matty said...

That is so sad.....so young! I also don't understand why some people would buy their children bicycles of $200 and more...and not get them a 20 dollar helmet. It's senseless.